It’s important to rely on reputable sources when discussing current events, but you also want to have healthy, safe, and mature conversations. While there are plenty of opportunities to discuss events online, the tone can often be misinterpreted. Someone might seem more aggressive or sarcastic than they mean, making a conversation more combative. Your goal is to learn, not fight, and it may be better to have conversations with people you know in person.
You should approach these discussions with an open mind. Consider where the other person is coming from and why they might reach certain conclusions. You can build empathy by finding common ground and asking questions to learn more about the perspective of the other person.
Another tip is to spot and avoid logical fallacies. For example, a straw man argument occurs when someone distorts your point and argues against the distortion instead. An ad hominem attack occurs when you attack the person rather than the argument itself. Neither of these fallacies actually addresses the issue.
Productive conversations require maturity and you should take a step back if discussions get heated. This social awareness can help you better approach sensitive topics another time.
Active Listening Techniques
One tool you can bring to any discussion is active listening. This is the process of seeking to understand the other person, rather than simply trying to make yourself heard. There are a few steps you can follow to practice active listening:
- Pick up on nonverbal cues: Focus on the tone, body language, and word choice.
- Put yourself in their shoes: Be curious about the points of view of others.
- Ask open-ended questions: Let them discuss their points further and have space to speak.
- Paraphrase their messaging: Confirm you are hearing them correctly. Ask for clarification if you need it.
Active listening will help you gain fresh perspectives while showing respect to anyone you talk to. Ideally, your debate partner will show you the same respect when it is your turn.
Respecting Diverse Opinions
Diverse opinions are a good thing. Debates, when handled maturely and peacefully, can help you explore new ideas and gain information. Without differing opinions, you risk living in an echo chamber where you only interact with people who agree with you.
There are a few ways to respectfully disagree when talking to others. First, let them finish their thoughts. They want to talk as much as you do. Next, discover where your views align. Your ideas might not be as different as you think. Finally, focus on the facts and avoid personal attacks.
Instead of approaching discussions about current events with the goal of winning arguments, try to have open conversations with empathy. Both parties win when they walk away with a better understanding of others.
Steering Clear of Heated Arguments
Finally, walk away from arguments that are unproductive and heated. Some warning signs that it is time to step back include raised voices, personal attacks, and people talking over each other.
The University of Wisconsin Madison provides three steps for de-escalation:
- Be in control of yourself: Avoid becoming angry or defensive during a debate.
- Control your physical stance: Consider your body language and whether it comes off as aggressive, dismissive, or judgmental.
- Practice de-escalation discussion: This includes changing the subject, suggesting alternative activities, and admitting that neither side will concede.
It’s better to redirect a conversation early on and change the subject before the debate gets too heated. This way, you can maintain a positive professional or personal relationship.
Discussion about current events can be healthy and fun. Make sure you do your research and present your ideas calmly to increase your chances of effectively sharing your ideas with others.